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<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>You must be extremely careful using Family History websites if living people might be<br />
affected, because the very people you are looking for may not wish to be found and we<br />
must always respect this. Whatever their reasons, they are entitled to their point of<br />
view, e.g. Some people are suspicious of anything to do with the internet, simply<br />
because they don't understand it and have heard all sorts of horror stories, and some<br />
are just plain scared that you are <em>after their money</em> and recently this has been<br />
compounded by concerns of identity theft.</p>
<p>If they want to be found they will be on sites like Genes Reunited Facebook etc</p>
<p><strong>Family History forums are not the place to start looking for Adopted Relatives</strong><br />
as it can cause great misery and distress, and will not be allowed here.</p>
<p>Enquiries on open website forums can open painful memories for the people concerned,<br />
which they had hoped and prayed were long forgotten by everyone, and they had hoped<br />
to take their secrets to the grave with them and this was often the case with<br />
illegitimate children, many of whom were adopted.</p>
<p>Attitudes began to change in the 1960's, as society became more tolerant, and often<br />
the parents of adopted children, have put it behind them and moved on, but the spouse<br />
and later children may be ignorant of the adopted child for most of their lives and<br />
they may never know.  This situation can lead to questions of trust and openness that<br />
can rock relationships.</p>
<p><strong>For enquiries about adoptions contact Social Services at the County Council</strong>.<br />
There are strict rules governing Adoption. The UK Adoption and Children Act 2005<br />
requires professional counselling prior to initial contact between Adoptees and birth<br />
relatives and this is to protect all parties.</p>
<p>Social Services have leaflets on tracing adopted children and birth families, and<br />
details of the Adopted Persons Contact Registers are also available through them.<br />
They also have the expertise, to guide you through it all.</p>
<p>Further reading:<br />
<a href="http://www.adoptionsearchreunion.org.uk/">http://www.adoptionsearchreunion.org.uk/</a><br />
<a href="https://www.fosterline.info/">https://www.fosterline.info/</a><br />
<a href="https://www.family-action.org.uk/">https://www.family-action.org.uk/</a></p>
<p><em>The above was put together by May Brace with assistance from Slowhands,</em></p>
<p>A copy of this article is available as a download in PDF format in the<br />
Miscellaneous Documents Section</p>
<p>Tracing Living Relatives<br />
<a href="http://forest-of-dean.net/joomla/miscellaneous-documents">http://forest-of-dean.net/joomla/miscellaneous-documents</a></p>
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