too many Thomas BARNARDs with wife Mary.... and a Mary GOODE (General)

by macast , North Yorkshire, England, Monday, November 10, 2014, 18:06 (3667 days ago) @ macast

with all these Thomas and Marys I am in a great muddle

to Thomas and Mary of Abenhall I have these children
1799 BARNARD Ann ....Thomas Mary Abenhall
1802 BARNARD Suffiah Barnarnard ....Thomas Mary Abenhall
1804 BARNARD Michael .....Thomas Mary Abenhall
1806 BARNARD Elizabeth .....Thomas Mary Abenhall
1808 BARNARD Thomas .....Thomas Mary Abenhall
1810 BARNARD James .....Thomas Mary Abenhall
1813 BARNARD Dina .....Thomas Mary Labourer Abenhall
1815 BARNETT Philip .....Thomas Mary Labourer Abenhall
1821 BARNARD Richard .....Thomas Mary Labourer Abenhall

but my partner's line comes through Richard BARNARD b1834 son of Thomas BARNARD and Lucy HARRIS

Abenhall Thomas and Mary had a Thomas but he was baptised in 1808 (and fits in with the rest of the children with a gap of 2 years ish..... until Richard with a 6 year gap since Philip).

the Thomas BARNARD and wife Mary that I'm more interested in is the couple who are the parents of Thomas BARNARD (baptised 1799) who married Lucy HARRIS

Record_ID: 414539 Entry_Number: Year: 1799 Month: Jun Day: 30 Parents_Surname: BARNARD Child_Forenames: Thomas Fathers_Forenames: Thomas Mothers_Forenames: Mary Mothers_Surname: Residence: Occupation: Officiating_Minister: Event: Baptism Memoranda: Son of Notes: Father's name Thos entered in the PR has been expanded to Thomas Register_Reference: P220 IN 1/2 Page_Number: 21 Parish_Chapel: Mitcheldean Soundex: B656

do you think this Mary is Mary GOODE? or do you think the Abenhall Mary is Mary GOODE? and if so then who is my Mary?

I think my head is spinning and might just spin right off my head with trying to sort these out!!!